Life's Psychology A-Z

Parent's responsibility;

Timeline
Birth. A child is born of love.
All memories are existing and not erasable.
It is crucial to take responsibility
of motherhood seriously; that is
to place the child first.


1st Birthday;
Providing the best routine
to offer security and love.
Positive reinforcements-
every one is remembered by the child.
Routine of meals, hygiene, outing,
secure homelife, security and safety of home/parent.

2nd Birthday;
Child is learning self-concept.
Walking, self-feeding efforts, verbal
communication; it is upmost
important for the parent to
show positive reinforcement and
positive role modeling.
Speak kindly in vocabulary that
is understood and accepted by the child.
Allow the child to lead one's
expression of choice. Right or left.
Which color of shoes to select.
Very important
to show age appropriate
dvd; able to observe
others at the same-age-peers at
secure play areas supervised by parents.
Communicating with other parents
to share parenting tips-to allow
parents to share what is good/what
is not tolerant ; establishing boundaries
with parents so that one's child in the society
/neighborhood under parental supervision.

age3-age5;
Getting ready for kindergarten.
Visits to Preschools-Membership based
secure playpens so that child can
interact with same-age-peers in order
to prepare for Kindergarten.
Potty training and learning one's rights
to privacy. Innately understanding
between one's rights and how to
keep one's self safe.
Parental guide is very important.
Language development is intact.
Learning to draw.
Learning to express one's emotions.
Learning to adapt to one's growing body.
Learning to place one's safety and one's self first.
Very important stage for routine.
Rest-sleep.
Breakfast.
Hygiene.
AM walk - outing.
Preschool.
Lunch.
PM Walk-outing.
Dinner.
Play at home.
Own room-own space-own toys.
Bath.
Reading.
Diary.
Security.
The routine of basics.
Healthy routine of essentials;
safe home-food-season appropriate outfits-shoes-
toys-personal items-personal space/one's own
room.

Parents need to reiterate safety.
How to call 911.
How to decipher between good and bad.
How to look beyond 'blind trust';
that not all cop uniforms spell safe.
Understanding the role of parent.
Parent is to be loving and it is wrong
for a parent to be abusive to one's child.
Police is responsible for keeping the
neighborhood safe; but all persons in uniform
is not same; that one police doing as
he is hired to do is good as long as that
person does the job as described on one's
resume...
Showing age appropriate dvds and having discussions
of different people and roles of people
(People in relation to their jobs and place in society).

Trying to decipher ;
1. One's safe home routine; responsibility of
a good parent. Child's right to
be special and different. Child's right
to a loving home where one
gets safety, own space, unconditional
love and guidance/protection from a parent,
access to nutritious meals, hygiene,
self-care given privacy, knowledge to
recognize and prevent abuse-violation.

2. Understand that outside child's home;
coexistance and equality is one's right.
Yet, there are people of all faces,genders,
jobs that take responsibility as one should
but there are times when that same person
takes an unpredictable roller coaster chances
of good and bad-back and forth; that
while one day nice-another day evil.
How to be polite-coexisting; but
for the child to understand one's self
before others.
To place one's own self value first.
To place one's security first.
To not trust all blindly.
To know how to defend one's self
from 'dysfunctional society';
how to stay away from
'peers-people having a bad day
trying to lash out';
To learn to place boundaries;
to speak up when target of unwarranted bully.

Age5; Kindergarten.
Public School.
Very important to teach a child that
adults or even peers who 'disrespect'
are wrong.

To teach a child the 'resume-responsibility'
of each person at school; that
'humans' have their own home life that
reflects one's emotions unappropriately-unpredictably
outside one's home.
So if the school staff-teacher-peer-neighbor-strangers-familiar
faces are not acting 'appropriate-to-one's resume/social tag';
to 'avoid' such 'violations-as-they-occur'.

Every child knows thru parental
guidance/education/case-study lessons
given at home.

Every child-daily be able
to live a home routine
in comparison to school routine;
to come home and discuss
the differences between
self and others met outside the home;
to recognize if one's rights to
(a) security,
(b) respect,
(c) equality-coexistance in society,
(d)freedom,
(e) privacy
are not violated.


To learn to stand up to
the 'bully' right then and there
giving zero opportunity for escalation;
if harrassed, however minimal-minute, to
address-to fight back immediately.

Teaching the child how to stand
up for one's self.

Teaching the child to defend one's self.

Teaching the child to place
one's self first (given a child with
innate kindness-innate responsibility
without signs of disability that needs extra help).

Teaching the child to not compare.
Teaching the child to learn and
not fall into trappings of ignorance;
to accept one's potential-to focus
on one's progress-one's journey
in self-actualization without
getting caught up on other's drama.

Teaching one's child to value
one's self.

Teaching one's child to
not place others before one's self.

Teaching one's child to
defend one's self.

Teaching one's child to
listen to one's own self.

Teaching one's child to
answer what one wants rather
than giving answers expected from them;
to beaware of 'manipulations' of people
at school-society that
makes them 'uncomfortable'.


Parents need to communicate;
Child's parent has the right
to keep 'blog/journal'
of every person coming in contact
with one's child; to set boundaries
and to let the persons know that
one's child's rights are not to be
violated.

Parent has right to 'place fear'
/'set boundaries' proactively
to safeguard one's child.
Parent must be very vocal and
by example set boundaries
of what is not condoned in front of the child
and also keep watch behind the scene
to keep the child safe.

Parent's responsibility
is greater as child is now
school-age.

Parent must not blindly
trust a human being
to always do as one's
job description reads; note
emotions-person's faults
deter 'human beings' from
not sticking to the 'job description'
one is hired to do.

Parent's guard it up.

There are repeated m o lestation-abuse
done to children age 5 to age9
by monsters that children
are familiar with (friends, family,
priest, neighbor); so extra
'cctv-caution' be reiterated
daily 'discussion' summarizing
day's events at dinner.

1st Grade-6th Grade.
Elementary school; repeating daily
the mentioned.
Parent does not have the
time to relax; guard is up
and must stay up to safe-guard
one's child.
The emotional/psychological
growth is crucial
in Elementary School.
Bullying occurs by ignorant peers-adults
in child's life during Elementary School.
Parent must bodyguard one's child.


Middle School.
Age appropriate 'puberty' discussions.
Martial-Arts-Self-Defense tutorials.
One's acknowledgement of pre-teen/young adulthood
but responsiblity of 'marriage-consequences-STD-HIV-AIDS'
that plague uneducated in the society.
Reiterate the value of literacy and education
among dysfunctional society that gives
different messages thru media.

High School.
Adult conversations.
S.A.T. prep for college of choice.
Placing consequences to every action.
Adult conversations between parent and child.
Child leading the parent.
Four years of child testing the parent
before leaving the 'home-nest'
to live alone as Freshman-at-college-of-choice.
Trying very best to find
child's 'innate talent' that'd
guide one's career;
a. What to study/specialize
at college.
-Journalism
-History
-Graphic Design
=Self-employment leading undergraduate degree.
One's heritage-ancestry; Formulate one's likes and dislikes.
Setting boundaries and making loyal friends of like-minded.
Learning one's rights to shun/reject harmful relationships.
Practicing one's rights to stay abuse free.
Practicing free-minded-analysis of 'free thinking' without influences.
Practicing 'isolation' in order to keep one's safe safe from crimes/harms/deceits.

Prioritizing education as one's right to safeguard
one's self in dysfunctional/corrupt society one
must coexist while 'not compromising' one's 'set values'.

Learning to place one's values first.
Learning to have 'self-acceptace/self-esteem/self-value'.
Placing one's self first.
Being cautious and striving to 'safeguard' one's self.

*Finishing Bachelor's degree;
a. living in the dorms.
b. applying as resident assistant at student housing.
c. interning as College Security workstudy.
d. applying for a 'Campus Police Officer' for a salary
position and/or starting one's 'self-employment'
career ( writer, K-12 Math-abacus curriculum developer,
freelanced web designer,
freelanced graphic designer;
getting paid as book-reviewer from Amazon-affiliate).

As an adult- having a career as a college graduate
who can publish one's
life journey-observations-know how's on how
to prevent obstacles.

Reading autobiographies and mentoring
in one's neighborhood to
keep it crime-safe.

Being a proactive spokesperson in one's
hometown against 'abusers';
to strive daily to keep one's neighborhood
crime-safe/to proactively
police one's neighborhood
from corruptions.

Being a conscious people-watcher;
to journal-document
daily lives of one's neighborhood;
a. educating good
b. safeguarding against bad-abuse-corruption
c. keep active 'database' of criminals
that must face consequences for every
sin
d. to keep the 'live message'
that 'there's zero tolerance'
of abuse-sin in one's neighborhood.

To decipher mind control
thru persons
misusing
religion/job/economic background
preying on vulnerable victims
in one's society.


To place one's value
higher than
'price tags'.

To be self-worthy;
to be priceless; to
live daily without abuse.

To choose 'freedome' over 'bank account';
not allow one's self to be bought.

To choose self over
corruption.

To keep safe from
deceptions.


To afford one's own
home thru 'self-employment-
college-educated-author-salary'.

To be one's own boss.

To read and be literate
in order to safeguard one's self
from deceptions/frauds.


To live knowing that
all memories made
daily coincide with
mental health;
that one's brain does not forget.


That every moment is stored
in one's mind;
a) nutritious meals
b) safe home
c) loyal-respect from peer/friends
d) one's freedom
e) being one's own boss
f) self-employed income as an author
documenting one's life
g) deciphering mind-control
pits by those in religious-political-economical
positions; to have boundaries and not
allow deception by those abusing
one's boundaries.

h) being self-efficient.
i) living independently.
j) being comfortable
taking care of one's self

k) avoiding negativity

l) striving daily to
upkeep/maintain
one's self-actualization
path.

m) living abuse free
; choosing solitude
instead of corruption
with consequences that
disables one's mental health.

n) always weighing
consequences to every action.

o) Having self-worth
and self-control to
stay abuse-free.

p) Daily efforts to
avoid std-hiv-aids
carriers that is a parasite
packaged in deception (many faces, roles,professions);
to choose to live disease-free.


q) To live to better one's self without competition.

r) To find one's own journey in life
without being victimized nor slaved.

s) Keeping one's mind at optimal on daily basis.

t) Fighting back at every incident; no matter how
belittled; never allowing another to 'brush off'
an abuse that hurts 'one's feelings'.
To stop the abuse at the very beginning;
to over-react as a preventative measure.
To stop the abusive indicators from the start.

u) To live a worthy life that started and will
end with academic-achievement, literate wisdom,
and priceless self-worth.

v) to expect 'romance -novel' one partner-one soul mate
loyalty and mutual respect. not to settle for less.
Find a equal match.
Find someone mirroring one's life goal/lifestyle.

w)Must avoid 'individuals needing fixing'; one
must realize one's own responsibility for one's own
wellbeing first. One is not to take backseat to another.
Only to give priority to self and one's child.

x) One must associate se x with child birth.


y) one must be guided by one's wisdom, self-worth, and
uncompromising 'ten commandments'.

z)One must coexist with dysfunctional individuals but
one must exercise the freedom to safeguard
against 'abuse-violations-deceptions' by the dysfunctional individuals.